There are many things that can be done to minimize the negative effects of separation on children. You can educate yourself on how to help the children cope with the changes that separation brings. You can ensure that your parenting plan is age appropriate and meets the children’s individual needs. If necessary, you can obtain the assistance of a child specialist for guidance. And most importantly, you can work to reduce conflict with your spouse. Studies are clear that it’s parental conflict that hurts children, not separation.